Lather, Rinse, Repeat and Never Stop
I need my distance and space but still, I need her
My mother washes my hair over the bathtub
I am twenty-six years old,
Kneeling, shirtless,
Waiting for the water to warm up.
I don’t need her help
Which is precisely why I ask for it.
She thinks I don’t need her anymore.
She thinks:
I don’t call her enough
I don’t ask her for money to buy the new jeans
I don’t ask her for advice on the new boy
I don’t even tell her when there is a new boy.
My mother hums, holds her wrist under the faucet
Tests the temperature like milk.
She lays a towel at the back of my neck.
This used to be our routine
Every Sunday and Wednesday evening
Before we got the electric shower.
She’s wrong.
I need my distance and space but still,
I need her:
reading true crime in the sunroom
pushing a grocery cart down the dairy aisle
coochie-cooing at a stranger’s baby on the bus
I need her at home in her fluffy socks
feet up on the couch,
hands tucked in between her thighs to keep warm
(Her circulation isn’t what it used to be).
I need her saying her Hail Marys at the novenas
I refuse to go to.
The blood runs to my head,
and the water — in seeming defiance of gravity— runs to my chin.
She doesn’t seem to realize that her existence is central to my existence,
that it would take only the smallest glitch in hers to instantly knock my own off-kilter,
throw me off my axis and launch me into orbit in the darkest ether.
So I kneel over the bathtub as she lathers Pantene into my scalp
and asks me if the water is too hot.
Amanda Nic an Rí is an Irish writer based in Berlin, Germany. Her writing has appeared in Lost Balloon and locally in Berlin Flash Fiction.